So yesterday afternoon I took a couple of trains out to Windsor to the home of an actress friend to spend an evening gabbing and doing my laundry. It rained, of course, but it was a pleasant, easy trip and I arrived only a little damp. My friend had a must-do event to attend that day -- polo in the Royal Box, she said, which made me giggle -- but expected to be home early in the evening. Fine. Her lovely nanny was at the house and we were having tea and feeding the washer around 7 when the phone rang: My friend was still at the event. "You have to come," she said. "The Prince of Wales is here and lots of great people. I'll send my driver."
I consider: I am wearing my oldest, frayed green cargo pants, sneakers, an oversized fluorescent orange t-shirt and a raincoat. I have no makeup on and my unwashed hair is caught up in a bun with a $2 hairclip. My ensemble is entirely in keeping with an evening of tea and laundry and wholly inappropriate for post-polo parties with a prince.
No, I say, I really couldn't. Thanks so much, but have a good time -- I'll just finish my laundry and see you next week.
No, she says, you will come. I will not, I say -- you have no idea what I am wearing, but it is not good. This does not matter, she says, I will be fine. I chuckle and demur. She says please, please. I apologize. She insists. I refuse. She says go find something in my closet, the driver is on his way. I protest that the only thing I could fit in from her closet would be the laundry bag, but she has already hung up.
Now, movie stars, some of them, have a certain irresistible charm. It's why we're drawn to them. We think it's because they're famous, and sometimes it is, but often they are famous because the charm is of such overwhelming wattage it makes everyone near them seem to be standing under a blown-out bulb. Thus did my protests come to feel feeble, shallow and silly, and I found myself pulling up on the manicured lawn of Guards Polo Club looking like Eliza Doolittle had she never encountered Henry Higgins.
I looked it up today and this is what the Internet had to say about the event I had witlessly blundered into:
"The Cartier International Polo is considered by many to be the highlight of the British social season. The pinnacle of the polo calendar, the tournament is a rare and coveted occasion where English society and royalty mix with Hollywood movie stars, global music icons and celebrities from around the world."
All of which was immediately clear to me as I stood in the drizzle outside a massive white tent surrounded by bucolic garden gates and guarded, to all appearances, by the British Secret Service. Lots of them. To a man, they refused to let me in.
"I don't blame you," I say, "I wouldn't let me in either. I mean, look at me . . ." This is the greatest charm offensive I have in my quiver at the moment and it is pathetically unequal to the occasion. Fortunately, my friend pops out at this point, dripping in diamonds, and firmly manhandles me past the men in black. I hold her hand while she chatters excitedly and I wait to be shot in the back. We enter an emptying tent and I say an affectionate hello to some friendly faces and toss back a flute of champagne she has thoughtfully and immediately handed me. Fortified by alcohol, we venture across the polo grounds for the prime event of the evening.
There are a number of marquees strung across the lawn like pearls (a cliche, but when it works, it works). We are headed to the one called Chinawhite.
"The Chinawhite enclosure through the day and night is now firmly established as the party of the summer."
Oh dear God.
We approach the VIP entrance, normally a slam-dunk in the right company -- and I am very much in the right company -- but this is a no-go. The gate guard takes one look at me and refuses point blank. My friend wheedles and bats her famous eyelashes to no avail, but in the end the proper authorities are appealed to and I find myself at "the party of the summer."
I have been to some parties and known some very beautiful people -- was in company with a few of them at the moment -- but the scene inside Chinawhite is different by an order of magnitude from the events I have been to. The people are uniformly stunning in designer clothes of butterfly colors. All heels are stiletto, all hair is perfectly cut, sparkling with the sorts of highlights that bespeak thousand-dollar colorists. There are scarves more beautiful than anything in my closet, and those are just the ones the men are wearing.
"These are the posh people," my friend whispers to me conspiratorially, and I am grateful she is not one of them, past the first couple of layers. Nearly everyone is young. Nearly everyone is gorgeous. If it weren't also true that nearly everyone is drunk I would simply have had to dig a hole in the pristine turf and pull the sod over me until it was over. But, as it is, I am either not noticed by or am beneath the notice of the assembled company so I am a little more comfortable than I had supposed I would be and settle in for an evening of serious people-watching.
Watching was about all I could do because there was no question of actually hearing anything besides the music and the hubbub. I believe that I met some actors, a designer or two, a couple of musicians and at least one billionaire -- most of them introduced to me by the sweetest viscount I have ever met -- also the only viscount I have ever met.
Afterward, we repaired to my friend's neighborhood pub for a nightcap, and I and my laundry took a taxi back to London.
It was a bizarre and wondrous evening, and I will say this for the posh people of Britain: There is a lot to like about people of such extraordinary self-possession and good manners that even while inebriated not a single person I met appeared to so much as glance at my atrocious, ridiculous attire.
I never saw Prince Charles, but class, I must say, was well-represented.